Top after-sex mistakes revealed

Picture this: You are enjoying a steamy sex session with your partner. As your passion reaches its climax, an ultimate sexual joy is felt like never before. The moment both of you get over with this night of passion, your partner head towards your study and starts reading or turns over and falls into a dead slumber. What a turn-off indeed!

It's just one of those mistakes that couples often commit soon after enjoying an intimate session with their partner. They might have made all the necessary efforts to satisfy their partner in bed, but just one little mistake can spoil all the fun!

The nature of these after-sex mistakes hints that you were just waiting for sex to get over so you could indulge in some other non-sexual activity. Or in some cases, it shows that you had something else running through your mind while having sex.

Though these are absolutely unintentional acts that partners get caught up in, these are often the terrible goof-ups that kill the sexual mood. Also, couples fail to understand that switching off from the sexual state of mind can leave the other partner highly irked.

Dr. Pushkar Gupta, a Chandigarh-based sex therapist opines, "It is very likely that partners who right away indulge in something else after having sex, might have performed sex as a duty and not an act of enjoyment. While there are several ways to keep up the mood even after the actual sex is over, some partners look for ways to remain busy and thus they end up committing lesser known 'after-sex' mistakes."

Dr. Amita Mishra, sex and relationship expert states, "After enjoying the sexual act, if a partner tries to get involved in something not related to sex, it surely makes the other partner feel disowned. While there should be an effort to linger on with the sexual feel even after the actual act is over, couples who deviate from this mood are certainly affecting their sexual relationship."

We list some recurring 'after-sex' mistakes that couples indulge in. So the next time you get intimate, make sure you do not switch into something else just after finishing the act. Let the mood linger on for enhanced pleasure ...

Falling asleep at once : Most couples come across this problem where either one of the partners or both would fall asleep soon after having sex. It certainly is a big goof-up that can kill the charm of sex. Sleeping at once would not allow you to cherish your performance and neither let you enjoy the mood with which you enjoyed that night of passion.

Making way for washroom : Enjoying a hot shower together can be a great foreplay act, but rushing to the washroom right after a hot romp is definitely not! While couples won't mind getting messy in their sexual acts, but as soon as it's over, they make way to the washroom to clean-up. It might sound okay, but they forget that the other partner might still be enjoying that mood and want to have more of it. Heading straight to the washroom makes the other partner feel that there's been something unpleasing about the act, which can mar your sexual bliss.

Calling a friend : This is another common mistake that couples face after a steamy session. While it's obvious that none would call a friend at odd hours to discuss official matters, so why can't a petty talk wait till the morning? When it's time to enjoy sex, it's indeed a gaffe to keep your eyes and ears stuck onto your mobile phone waiting for a message or keeping an eye on your missed calls. It makes the other partner feel as if you're just not interested and thus ruins all the fun.

Heading towards study or work : What couples think of during sex remains an unanswered question. Those who head towards study-room right after a romp may just give the answer. Thinking books and reading is indeed a sex blunder! Like sexual moments, it's equally important to enjoy the after-sex pleasure. If you rather descend towards your study, leaving behind your partner, it won't bring any good to your sexual relationship. If you prefer reading a book instead of cuddling and snuggling, you are indeed inviting trouble into your sex paradise.

Sleeping separately : You might have a habit of sleeping separately in guest bedroom or on the terrace, but on a particular night when you've een intimate with your partner, exceptions are allowed. After a lovemaking session, it's not a good idea to abandon your partner and pack your sheets and pillow to move to another room for a sound sleep. It will not only kill the passion on that night, but would also tarnish your sexual relations for several nights to follow.

Bringing kids to sleep along : Letting anyone invade your sexual privacy is bound to mar your sexual pleasure and kids are no exception. Many mothers have a tendency to bring kids to sleep alongside on the same bed and if that happens after having sex, it can't get worse. Well, such a gesture has all the reasons to annoy the other partner, who might have planned something more sensual to be enjoyed after a steamy romp.

Eating another meal : Eating an aphrodisiacal meal together with your beloved can be a great start before a lovemaking act. But moving to the kitchen right after having sex looking for something to eat is equally disgusting. It ruins the entire passion and would make your partner feel that you didn't enjoy sex just because you were hungry and had food on your mind.

10 Tips to get your man wild in bed

Men rarely divulge their secret desires to the women in their lives and though everyone has different needs and desires there are some moves and attitudes that most men want. Read on to find out what they are and then give him the time of his life!


Give some subtle suggestions
For men (even though he's known you for a while now) a woman's libidinous longings are not always easy to decipher. If you drop some hints about what all you want and guide him along, he will love you for it.

Trust us, the man who really loves you would love to please you in every way possible. So, talk to him and tell him if he's doing just what you wanted or if you want him to continue with something a little longer.

Bowl him over with a wild move
Do something unexpected and wild when you both are at it. Something erotic that he will not be able to forget soon. Make your session stand out by coming up with signature moves. Work on pleasuring him in different ways.

Offer the spice of variety
Change in speed, positions and pressure can really make the entire experience very different. Whether it is the foreplay or the actual act, if there is variety he will never really know what to expect and therefore it will help a great deal in revving up his senses.

Turn it on yourself
Since women take time to get turned on, men love women who can take that responsibility off them so that he can actually get to work. Though your man may love to do all that he needs to in order to get you aroused but he would definitely like it if you were already half-way there. Somehow the fact that you are already in an aroused state is a huge thing for him.

Spring a surprise
For men it is a massive ego boost to know that you want him too. Surprising him with a spontaneous seduction act can really win him. He will not be likely to forget it in a hurry.

Don't be scared to be naughty
Don't hold back when you are with your guy. Yes, we know that you have this 'good-girl' image that you hold sacred. Men like to see this other side of you when you are not scared to break his 'good-girl' image of you. They will never cause offense by actually asking you to do it. Just show him that you are really into him and want him as much as he wants you.

Give him an eyeful
Leaving something on your body, for him to remove can be very arousing. When you are at it just make sure you are near a mirror so that you can see yourselves in action. It can be hot.

Get rough
Yes, he wants it rough at times and he would love it if you let him know that you want it too. Bring out the beast in him and tell him you are having the time of your life.

Take over
Sometimes men just want you to take over while he just lies down and enjoys. It is an ultimate fantasy for them.

Wear his fav lingerie
Show him that you care by wearing his favourite lingerie.

HIV infected people prone to develop cancer

A new study has revealed that people suffering from HIV may be at a risk of developing life-threatening cancer, including lung, head and neck, liver, kidney, and anal cancers.

Considering the increasing number of non-AIDS defining cancers researchers studied if a particular cancer drug could be given to people taking highly active anti-retroviral therapy (HAART) for HIV. "Up to this point, oncologists have not had much information about treating cancer in people taking HAART," said John Deeken, a research physician at Georgetown Lombardi Comprehensive Cancer Center.

"We're basically at square one because people with HIV usually are not included in cancer clinical trials.

They're excluded because physicians are worried about causing further immune suppression in HIV patients, and because HAART drugs are notorious for causing drug-drug interactions and serious side effects," he added.

The researchers examined two groups out if which, one included those whose HAART combination did not include ritonavir, while the other group took a ritonavir-based protease inhibitor HAART cocktail. 19 patients were enrolled, treated, and completed at least one cycle of therapy. It was observed that Sunitinib (50mg/day) was well tolerated in patients taking non-ritonavir based HAART regimens.

However, patients treated with sunitinib in group two, those taking the ritonavir-based therapy, experienced more side effects including higher rates of neutropenia. "When the trial is complete, we may have data to recommend that patients take different dosages of sunitinib based on what HAART cocktail they are taking.

We also found that patients could keep taking their HIV medications safely, and that sunitinib did not affect the HIV disease status of patients in either group," said Deeken.

7 Must-know sex secrets

A good talk is a great aphrodisiac
Many women find talk a great turn-on. For them, talking and feeling loved are very important. Good conversation during walks or while the couple is relaxing can be a great aphrodisiac. A man could tell his woman how much he loves her, which acts as a reassurance that he is with her mentally during those intimate moments.

Many women are anxious about their looks
For a couple that has been together for long, sometimes it is natural that women may feel that their partner may find them less alluring. Because of this some women undress only under the cover of darkness. Caring men can sense such anxieties. There is no need to lie and say she's gorgeous if she isn't, nor is there a need to say that she is not attractive anymore. One can always appreciate and praise what you do find attractive.

For a woman sex isn't separate from rest of her life
On the other hand, men tend to compartmentalise, feeling that stressful aspects of life can be parked mentally and separated from sexual activity. Women need good feelings and experiences during the day to have satisfying sex. How her lover treats her out of bed, greatly influences her response in bed. Inattentiveness, harsh language, rude tones, hurtful words, and criticism can make it difficult for a woman to get involved, feel enthusiastic and be passionate during sex.

An orgasm is not a necessity
Many men feel that a good lover is one who can bring his woman to climactic sexual culmination. It is great to have such moments, but aren't always essential. Many women feel pressure from partners and even from themselves to reach an orgasm. Sometimes instead of having orgasms, women prefer to engage in just foreplay.

Sex need not be a serious act
Playfulness is a great quality. Many men are far too serious about sex. They forget to laugh, be romantically mischievous, have fun. Playfulness and light-heartedness can make intimate moments enjoyable and relaxing. This takes performance pressure off from both partners.

Women cherish non-sexual touching and tenderness
Women love romance, cuddling, hand-holding and kissing. But many women complain that their men never do this except during foreplay. A woman should make her man realise the joy of touching. As you give him a relaxing massage and stroke his face and hair tenderly, he starts experiencing the joy of this kind of non-sexual touching. Tell your man what makes you feel loved.

Warm attention after sex is important
A woman's need for tender moments goes beyond the actual lovemaking. Some women complain that men fall asleep immediately after the act. It is true that when a man is having sex, his endorphin level is very high. Almost immediately after ejaculation, he goes through a refractory phase where he loses his erection and all his systems gear down. In females this phase happens gradually. However, if you don't like him falling asleep immediately, tell him without putting him down. Alternatively, let him sleep in your arms for a few minutes and gently wake him up afterwards.

Try and keep it simple!

How to impress him/her? Easier said than done, you realise, when you come across guys looking for a perfect date. They try to come up with those smart one-liners. The moment desperation comes into the picture, they get it wrong.

Meet Mr Cocksure who approached Neha Kumar. He asked her if she knew him. No, she said. His answer? "For you look like my next girlfriend." Tushar made an equally disastrous attempt. A science student, Taneesha Shah was at a coffee shop when Tushar asked her, "Are you all right?" She said that she was, and inquired why. He said, "Angel, you just look like you fell from the heavens. Aren't you hurt?"

A medical student, Sneha Tiwari shares, "One day he followed me, and in an attempt to be subtle, hid behind a pillar. As I walked by, he bumped into me so hard, I ended up spilling hot coffee all over his shirt." Law student Anita Shah recalls, "A guy was so desperate to impress me that, every time I walked into college, he'd walk by me for 10 times, stand in front of me and shuffle songs on his I-pod. One day, he used his laptop in front of me," Anita could have told him: Everything isn't about money, honey. A girl is less likely to "walk away in disgust" after you compliment her. The key is to focus on her. Else, your pick-up line can be a put-off line.

Is your friend your sex buddy?

He loves me, he loves me not. She'll call back, she won't." Well, not all tales that begin with plucking petals or waiting for a call, end up in bed.

For the girl or guy you save the last dance for, need not be the one you spend your life with. But, that's ok. Isn't it? For, till you find your ideal partner, you can have fun with a buddy. All you have to do is just give a call or drop a message and he or she will be there at your doorstep. Yes, having a f**k or a sex buddy is cool, comfy and fun, feel the youth. We talk to them on what they call a "win-win situation."

A friend in need, is a friend indeed!

Who else, but your buddy to best understand your needs. "A bed buddy keeps one happy, 'coz there are no strings attached. And it's not a new trend, just that now it's a fad, just like having a boyfriend or a girlfriend," says Prateek, a manager with a city eatery.

"It's hassle-free and convenient," feels Neha, a bank employee. She adds, "It surely is more than a one-night stand. It lasts much longer, after all, friendships last." But, how does it all begin? "In my case, it was not like a thought out decision. I was lonely and looked for comfort in a friend and it worked. Today, we know we are there for each other, whenever and wherever," lets in Amit, a bank employee. "It's all about fulfiling an instinct and since social norms don't permit it otherwise, one goes to a friend," reasons Prateek. Dhruv, a student of computer applications says, "It's about helping a friend enjoy the pure pleasure of sex. It might feel wrong the first time, but then, with friends there are no hang-ups."

Cool 'n' clear
"It is a zero complication situation, as both the friends are clear on what they want," says Dhruv. Both the buddies have to be clear about the terms of the relationship or else emotional problems follow, says Megha, a budding architect. "Sex buddies come in handy, for they're just a call away," feels Preeti, who is doing her MBA. "It's pure sex. One is not even required to engage in any post-sex sweet talk," she adds. Agrees Vikas, a scribe, "That's quite a relief, as one is not made to feel guilty if one forgets to send flowers the next morning. The passion never dies, for you know why you are into it." Adds Prateek, "Cheater and a f**k buddy are two different terms."

In the fast lane
"Today's pace of life doesn't allow one to devote hours to nurturing a relationship," feels Gaurav, an executive working in a call centre. "Gone are the days when one had to wait for marriage to have sex. It's also not about being a girl or a guy," says Megha. "It's thrilling to meet one's needs with a friend, rather than wait for a girl to shed her hang-ups," chips in Amit.

Fun bhi, safety bhi?
"I have been staying alone in the city for five years and have had a couple of regular sex buddies all these years," says Vikas, adding, "At times, it was to avoid loneliness, and many a times for fun." Admits Gaurav, "I have never felt ashamed while experimenting when with a friend. You can let your fantasies loose." Some feel such a relationship ensures safe sex. "A friend would never leave you infected with a virus," feels Prerna.

No right or wrong
"I would never consider having a serious relationship with a man who I know has had a sex buddy," says Kanika, who is studying commerce. But then, there are no rights and wrongs feel those who have such buddies, and they reiterate that it's about personal choice.